How to tell others
I went into a bridal boutique the other day, and there was the
owner - in a lovely, formal suit (not me though), and wearing a hat! A very
smart, formal hat. We are from a country town (big - but like a
town), and she looked stunning- as if we were suddenly in Paris in the best boutique in
the city. It all came from the attitude she reflected - totally at ease with wearing her
hat and very formal clothes. She succeeded, not because of how she looked, but because of
the attitude she had.
I'm finding the same thing when I talk to people about my trich now days. At first I would
NEVER even admit it (not even to my parents who saw me etc). Then I discovered the i/net
and learnt the truth about trich, but it was still a secret - and I shrank away if I had
to say that I am allergic to sugar etc.... esp. if they asked me what happens when I do
eat sugar. Now I tell them what my problem is, but without ANY shame - it is like I'm
telling them I have diabetes. And I suddenly find that no one looks at me strangely - they
are mostly interested - but no one laughs at me or mocks me. I believe it is because of
what I am
portraying to them - that it is a disorder - that I am a victim, not the guilty party. I
think that because I truly believe it, they believe it too. But as long as we believe that
we are guilty and bad, that is the image that we will portray to them, and that is what
they will believe.