Fairlight Bulletin Board
This is a wonderful place to go. It is like a physical bulletin board where anybody can post anything and anyone can read but you don't have any obligation to post anything. You can just read (lurk) or post when you're ready. You don't have to specify your real name if you're not comfortable with it, and you don't need to specify your e-mail address if you don't want to. Here you can ask questions, vent, scream, call out for help, encourage others etc. It seems to be the place where most trichsters discover for the first time that they are not alone. Most people discovering the BB are very emotional, which is very understandable. So just be careful - speak your mind, but keep in mind that many people on there are hurting. Don't abuse the forum - it is too special a place. Please be kind to one another. We've all been hurt because of TTM. Let's stand together and be there for one another. Another tip: many people get affected when too much mention is made about roots, especially very graphic discussions. If you do want to talk about it, put this in the subject space when writing a message: Warning - roots. This way people will know to skip that part of the message if they know that they are affected by such discussions. Thanks
Please read this letter
Newbies (new posters/readers) ,please read the note below. It was posted by Marge
Welcome newbies - please jump right in and become part of us. There is no paid welcomer here and most people are almost as new as you. Several people try very hard to welcome every new person by name but if you stick with us you will see how hard that is to do and how people can be missed. One thing that you can do is try to welcome the new people yourself. Everyone likes to see their name mentioned. Try not to let your feelings get hurt if people don't respond directly to you. Don't you read all of the messages here? Don't many of them mean something to you? Do you reply to each of them? Why not? Is it a time thing? Well, that's how it is here. Even if people don't respond to you personally, your post is being read and treasured. Just as you read and treasure and take comfort in posts without responding to them. The more you respond to others posts, the more likely it is that someone will reply to you. But, even then, there will be many times when- just as you don't have time to post that something really moves you - others will want to respond to you and really just not have the time. As with controlling trich, persistence is the key to getting truly involved in this bulletin board. Try to remember that this is a bulletin board and not everyone reads it every day. The person who most identifies with what you say may not read the board today and by the time they do read it your post may be buried under 100 others. Think of it as being like a busy college bulletin board. Keep on sharing and reaching out to offer support to others here and you will find a very loving home. (I say this after I quit this board back in August, 1996 because I felt very hurt that no one responded to me. It was 6 months later and a huge pulling spree before I found my way back and began to really interact.) All of us really do understand the excitement of daring to post and the eagerness with which we all check to see if we really touched another with our post. It is a feeling that I will certainly never forget. Excitement ran through my body. It was exhilarating to be daring to reach out into cyberland. I'm not a risk taker and this was a really scary risk for me to be taking. Are you touched by some of the posts? Then don't be shy - tell that person. You don't have to be an expert to share love. Most of all, please hang in there and feel loved. You truly are. When some of us say to "ALL" it is exactly because we don't want to hurt someone badly by trying to mention all of the new people by name and then inadvertently missing one or two. Hang tough and you will make friends here. This is not a closed group - it is a persistent one.